Happy pride month guys!! Let’s all be proud of ourselves for who we are, and strive for a future where everyone is equal :) To celebrate, I’m going to share a bit of my own story as an lgbt+ person. I don’t think i’ve ever talked about my own identity here a lot. It’s the perfect time now, though, so why not! I am transgender (female to male), gay, and aroace (aromantic/asexual). If you have any questions about these, or lgbtq+ generally, i don’t mind answering questions in the comments! Even the stupid ones /lh I’ve known that i was lgbt+ for about three years now, but I haven’t always known in what way. Originally, I thought i was a cisgender lesbian. Believe it or not, it is actually pretty common for trans gay people to start out thinking they are lesbian girls. I can’t say why, but its an experience a lot of us share for some reason:] When i started realising that i wasn’t a cis girl, I thought i was non-binary. But throughout time, i started relating more and more with transmasculine experiences, and it dawned on me that i was actually a guy! There wasn’t a single moment where I realised this. I didn’t just wake up one morning and decide i was trans (I wish it was that easy). In reality, figuring out involved a ton of research and self reflection, and, admittedly, quite a lot of crying too (lol). Now, the journey didn’t stop there. I was still figuring out the rest of my identity, and i also had a long way to go regarding coming out. I was also still pretty alone in this part of my life. Although i had some friends in school, having little to no people i could really relate to i still felt very isolated. So i started to seek out lgbt+ spaces, and i’m very glad i did. Since then, i’ve gained a lot of new friends, and i feel less alone in my experiences. It’s something i really recommend doing! Having a better support system, i still felt as if i was missing something. So I decided to come out as trans to my best friend! If you’re a follower of mine, you might’ve seen my post on this back when it happened. She is also lgbt, although it is something we rarely talk about. I knew she would be supportive, but it was still a very scary thing to do. But i’m very glad i did it anyway. When it was over, and my heart had stopped beating way too fast, i was actually quite proud of myself. I still have yet to come out to my family and the rest of my friends, but i’ll get there one day :) Being aroace and gay is something that hasn’t meant as much in my life, but has been important nonetheless. I’ve always had a hard time relating to the experience of romance and love. I do experience crushes, and i do want a boyfriend one day, but i feel it in a different way than what is considered “normal” to most people. A lot of what someone might consider the basics of a relationship, I’m simply not interested in. But considering everything, i am still young, and a lot can change over time. Maybe one day i will realise that i was wrong about my identity or sexuality, and i’ll consider myself something different entirely! That is not to say that putting labels on yourself that you might be uncertain of is bad, though. I think we should all be able to define ourselves while still leaving space for growth! Anyways, i’m done talking now ^_^ As i said earlier, please leave any questions in the comments (as long as they are respectful)! i’m always ready to help :D and happy pride month!
