So, a few weeks ago I made a project telling you guys I got a girlfriend, and I know what you’re thinking “Oh no Milky did she break up with you?” And the short answer is yes. But don’t worry it’s ok. Let me explain what happened. So, my girlfriend, let’s call her Mia, is polyamorous, which means you are in or want to be in a relationship with more than one person at a time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone, and when I told Mia, I loved her, she was currently in a relationship with another friend, who I’ll call Lilly. When I told Mia, she said that she would say yes, but we had to check with Lilly first. When I told Lilly she said it was fine, but she has told me that when I asked her, she panicked and said yes, and she said she should’ve had more time to consider. Mia also said she kinda panicked while answering as well. She said she didn’t know what to do and felt kinda pressured into saying yes. She also said that she should’ve told me that she was dating Lilly and that would be that, because she said she wasn’t really sure if she liked me. She said she feels like we should’ve broken up sooner so it wasn’t dragged out and I was being misled, but no one is good at break ups. She was worried that this would ruin our friendship, but I explained how it wouldn’t. I told her I never meant to pressure Mia nor Lilly into saying yes. I admitted that I did kinda put both of them on the spot, and I should’ve told them to take the time they needed to process. I feel like this doesn’t ruin anything between us. For me, if we talk stuff out respectfully, no one’s feelings get hurt (at least mine don’t) and we can still have a healthy friendship. Whereas if we talked and our words and thoughts were fueled by our emotions, feeling would be hurt and we would just be angry at each other. I also was still figuring out if I really liked Mia or not before I told anyone, and the relationship did feel kind of strained when we never were able to see eachother because of scheduling conflicts (no one’s fault though) To be fair, I probably should’ve told Lilly that I kinda like Mia before I told Mia myself. Everything is ok though, and we’re all still friends. I just wanted to give you guys an update
