Hi everyone! Here's a reminder to our trans allies. MAKE. SURE. TO. CHANGE. NAMES. IN. EVERYTHING. POSSIBLE. TLDR of the story at the bottom for those who don't want to read! (for context this was the second funeral i've gone to organized by this side of the family) I went to a funeral a while back, and there was a "book" ish thing. On the back of this book, there was stuff about this person's life and living relatives. The first part of the back had the names of all of the living relatives of this person. I assume this part was reused from the last funeral I went to on this side of the family, because it had my deadname on it. (I had been out for 9 months at that point.) I saw it, didn't dwell on it too much. Later, the officiant (I think that's what they're called), READ OUT the names of all of their living relatives. Including me. My deadname. I held it in "pretty well" at the time, but as soon as I had the chance, I ran inside and, well, broke down. My grandmother (the one who organized the funeral) came over and apologized, and didn't know the officiant was going to read out the names. TLDR: My grandparents forgot to change my deadname for a funeral thing, and my deadname got read out in front of everyone and I broke down. This goes to show that when someone comes out and changes their name, make sure to try to support that and change their name on everything possible! If you forget please apologize and change it ASAP.
