i don't know who needs to hear this, but apologizing doesn't mean everything's fixed. tl;dr: apologize without expecting forgiveness and without making excuses or putting yourself down. and don't hurt people in retaliation. when you make a mistake, you need to own up and apologize. but if you apologize expecting forgiveness, it's not a real apology. this is a common misconception. the person you wronged DOESN'T HAVE TO FORGIVE YOU. it doesn't matter if it was a mistake, if you hurt someone you need to apologize, don't give excuses, don't be offended if they don't forgive you. not all mistakes are forgivable. you don't get away with stuff by saying 'oops! my bad :3' that's not life. most people do this without realizing it and you're not a bad person if you do this, but you need to recognize it. and, i think we all know what i'm referencing, saying 'no offense' doesn't excuse whatever you're about to say. what you said hurt someone. (btw @-BeeTea doesn't deserve hate, this is what i mean by how you're not a bad person if you do this kind of thing, you just need to learn) i'm saying though, people need to watch themselves more. apologizing doesn't fix everything. it's like putting a band-aid on something. the wound is still there, you still hurt them. and this applies to if they hurt you first, too or you're hurt by someone else. you still hurt them and that's not right. and don't try and earn sympathy after it. like 'oh i'm so horrible, i'm so sorry' ... that's also not a real apology. you sound like a manipulator. own up. you messed up, we all do, what matters is you recognize that and that they're allowed to still be angry at you. bc some people might take this the wrong way, YOU SHOULD NOT HATE ON PEOPLE. politely educating them is a good idea, but only a couple people need to. focus on uplifting the person who was hurt! SERIOUSLY DON'T DO THAT KIND OF THING. y'all can get way out of hand. also i recommend just not interacting with them. i'm sick of this kind of thing. i've seen it a million times and this just reminded me of a lot of bad memories.
