1- in arguments, we are quick to assume we are thr victim. Stop and think "what could i have done wrong?" 2- stop doing anything that the person expresses is upsetting or harming to them and apologize 3- be open-minded and kind. Try to have a mature and adult conversation 4- in argument, begin with "i". "I feel," "my experince is", instead of blaming the other person. Therefore they feel less attacked and the conversation can remain calm 5- know when to give up. Some people will not change. If someone says they will change and do not, its best to let it go. However anyone deserves a second chance and become better. Be open. 6- its okay to give boundaries 7- dont be quick to judge if YOU YOURSELF havent spoken to someone yet. 8- on the outside of an argument, do not take a side but listen to both parties and if theyre okay with it, try to advocate for both to solve it 9- if you feel something youre doing could possibly be harmful, stop and consider why you are doing it. If it is harmful, speak with the person and apologize. 10- no means no. If they are serious, let it go. 11- youre already pretty fine at this but dont undermine someone's experince or how you made them feel. Thats what they felt. And its real. Understand. Undermining can make who youre talking to feel like theyre talking to a wall and if you can't understand their experince, you can't understand their argument or just them(leading you to no. 1, feeling like more of a victim. If you listen to them, you can better understand where you went wrong).
Ive been trying to be a better person then I was in 2023 to early 2024. Obviously I have improved because ive gotten older so im more discerning. But I want to improve from someone. THIS IS PURELY made with my own personal improvement in mind. I want to be a better person for this person. THIS IS FOR ME TO TAKE HEED. not anyone else <3 So <3 but only this one person Ive wanted to make this project for a hot minute. Because ive wanted to fix this relationship for a long time. Besides, I was never bitter with them anyway so :3 Feel free to use this however what you view you need to change can be different. I'll tally my adjustments on my desc.
