if I chose you without prompting, you are my family. I'm sorry if this upsets you, but I will not forgive him. He triggered PTSD by yelling at me, and didn't stop when I flinched, or when I started crying. This has no effect on my niece and nephew. Nor anyone else who asks if they can be part of my family. I may be a little upset for a while, so understanding and grace I hope are what people will offer me. He was my guy best friend, so I'm a little distraught.