Ok so there's this girl I'm friends with right? She's in my choir class. But yesterday she highkey crossed my boundaries to the MAX. Let's start from the beginning, Yesterday I went to the Houston Rockets game to perform the Star spangled banner with my choir (it was actually so fun like I really enjoyed this and def one of the best choir events I went to) Now my friend is very clingy to me which I guess I don't mind? She asked me to sit next to her in the bus, and tbh I wanted to sit with someone else, but I didn't wanna hurt her feelings so I sat with her. Fast forward we're on the bus to the Toyota Center (our arena where singers perform concerts and whatever in Houston) And usually I'm fine with physical touch, but the whole ride there she was holding my hand or laying on me! I wouldn't mind, but it was too excessive and there wasn't a moment she wasn't holding my hand. Here's the thing, she likes me. She's been liking me since the first semester of school and I knew that cause well..she told me. But on the bus ride there she asked me to date her(I said no the first time) And obviously I gave her the same answer. Why? Cause one I LIKE SOMEONE ELSE, and 2 I never liked her romantically, and 3 She has a boyfriend. It was pmo cause like you know I don't like you in that way so why are you still tryna ask me out?? I'm not gonna get with someone who I don't like just cause. Not only that but you have a BOYFRIEND you're already in a relationship with, and you're tryna ask me out while being in one???? That's straight up cheating. Now here's what made me really uncomfortable, on the bus I was gonna sleep so I closed my eyes and she tried to kiss me. Not only that but she also kissed me on the cheek. ON THE DAMN BUS, IN FRONT OF 7TH GRADE BOYS AND US 8TH GRADE GIRLS. That was so embarrassing and I honestly was so upset. The whole bus started making jokes about how we should get together and like dude. I like someone else my GOD BRO and I DONT FKING LIKE HER. Her kissing me just honestly made me hella uncomfortable. Like girl I don't like you like that, and on top of that..is the fact that you kissed me without my consent. on a bus, with like 40 people. Stop tryna force me into getting with you I addressed to u SO MANY TIMES that I don't wanna be in a relationship with you. Like I'm saving my lips (if she tried to kiss me on the lips i'd probably just punch her.) for the girl I actually like. Also she kept asking me who I liked and her excuse was "I wanna know if it's me" Even though I just said it wasn't you. You are in a relationship with someone, tryna ask me out and KISS ME. My god when I say I was so mad I mean it. Luckily I sat with my other friend on the bus home (we got home at like 11PM and mind you we got on the bus at 4pm so it was a very long day) and we shared airpods and listened to music. But it's just like why cant she respect the fact that I don't like her like that. She's always holding my hand and laying on me and forcing me to lay on her, but it's too excessive. Like I'm fine with physical touch, but it's like every 5 seconds I'm around her she's always laying her hands on me. The worst part about all of this is the fact that i don't really know how to set boundaries. I don't know how to tell people to stop when they make me uncomfortable, or to leave me alone when they're getting on my nerves. I wonder how it's so easy for others to do it. I don't wanna hurt her feelings cause she's still my friend, but there were so many times I just wanted her to like stay away from me cause like why couldn't you ask before you kissed me???? (not like i'd let her,) and you have a boyfriend and you know I like someone else. it's just like please stop tryna be all romantic with someone yk doesn't like you back. and please stop tryna force me into a relationship with you (I cannot properly handle friendships so why would I get into a relationship)
PS: I do have a best friend of 3 years who acts romantic towards me but the thing is we've been friends for a very long time, and he's not like super excessive + we match each others freak so like it's normal for the both of us. but with her it's like I don't know you like that .. I don't like you like that.. and you're constantly crossing my boundaries. I do plan to tell her that I don't want a relationship with her and that's final the next time she asks and that I want her to stop tryna be all romantic with me and to start asking if it's ok to do certain stuff than just do it without consent.
