yall don't have to read this it's kinda long but it's also kinda funny you'll prolly get a good laugh at it cuz it's so ridiculous and i rlly want ppl to talk to about this :3 so theres this guy, we'll call him sock (cuz that was his codename before we started dating/talking). i didn't know him too well, he was in my first and fifth period classes and we sat next to each other in first period. we didn't talk very much, and when we did it was like small talk yk but i thought he was kinda cute er whatever and i decided to ask him to a school dance (sadies, on november 8th). i get his address from one of his friends, Q (funny thing is me and Q are still tight even though i broke up with sock lmao) and make him a poster w my phone number on it + drop it off on september 20th. the DAY afterwards, sock starts texting me a LOT. and i mean like all day basically and he's lowk flirting w me n stuff and i'm like "oh yay he's interested!!" but guys we didnt even know each other that wellll like okkk umm hello rizz or something ? um anyways this goes on for FIVE WEEKS cuz he's over here trying to ask me to be his girlfriend and i'm like "broklahoma we're not ready to date yet we need to like bond more n stuff" so it's really my fault the whole talking stage was 5 weeks but im not sorry lmao anyways so over fall break i go to florida and when i come back we start dating (THIS WAS OCTOBER 24TH BTW) (also the same night we kissed i DONT like admitting to this but it's part of the plot so bare with me!!1!!1) um and then after that he's like trying to hold hands with me at school and do PDA stuff (public display of affection so he's basically trying to be all lovey dovey in public) even though i told him COUNTLESS times i didn't like it and it went against my boundaries. also small note, any time i said this or asked sock to like,,, NOT hold my hand in public, he'd try guilt tripping me and ask me things like "whyyy :((((" "are you embarrassed of me :((" "why don't you like it :((" EVERY. TIME. no matter how many times i explained to him why and how i didn't like it. he'd answer "oh that's okay. i understand." and then proceed to try holding my hand at school the next day ? (the red flags are building up lmao). the EXACT same thing goes for him saying "i love you :)". i told him it made me uncomfortable too and that it felt WAY too soon to be saying that. he'd say he understood and that it made sense, and then say it a bunch to me and try guilt tripping me when i wouldn't say it back (i mean you could try blaming me for unclear communication but i really don't think repeatedly stating my boundaries and why i have them is 'bad communication'. and even then i really shouldn't have to explain my boundaries to him?? like hello??? they're my boundaries, if you don't agree with them then that's too bad. i will stand by my values idk WHY i put up with this guy. lowest point of my LIFE right here). OH ALSO guys this bit's kinda INSANE but after we kissed yk he asks "so is kissing going to be a normal thing now?" and i'm like "uh idk maybe, i don't want excessive kissing." and he's like "oh yeah me too." (i didn't rlly believe him but whatever). also he'd make homophobic comments about a lot of my theatre friends and whenever i called him out for it he'd look at me like i was being super dramaic and overreacting and say "oh my god. CHILL. i was KIDDING!" OR ORRR this part is FUNNY he'd go he'd go "i'm not homophobic, my best friend has 2 dads." guys. guysssssss. are we being so fr.. it's giving : 'that man isn't s3xist! he has a wife! (he beats his wife)' like hello ?? also he was an ass to all my friends while we were dating (red flags keep building up) i mean tbf they weren't v nice to him but he started that trend? okay now,, TEAAA. so on november 2nd, sock texts me: "hey i have a question for you." me: "what" him "can we kiss at sadies?" me: "erm" THIS PART IS CRAZY. THEN, BRO STARTS FULL ON BEGGING ME TO KISS HIM. i have a screen recording and several screenshots i have actual prOOF of what a FREAK this kid is. anyways i'm super freaked out like what the hell my boyfriend is begging me to kiss him and i'm clearly uncomfortable by it but he just keeps begging and begging and pleading it's actually disgusting ? he's going at it for like an hour too. i keep leaving him on read er whatever and not responding and the next day he's like "hey. i'm sorry about yesterday just so you know i was kidding the whole time. i'm not freaky like that." ...
okay so genuinely what the actual heck is wrong with this kid. it was VERY obvious he wasn’t joking, but the second he realized how uncomfortable he made me, he pulled the “i was just kidding haha” card. no. you were NOT joking. you said that to save yourself because you realized you messed up. don’t try to play it off like i’m stupid and can’t tell the difference. this also wasn’t the first time he did something like this btw. a few days earlier we were in my car and i made a JOKE like “if you guess the song i’ll m4k3 0ut with you.” i had ZERO intention of actually doing that. i was joking. he was not. bro LOCKED IN trying to guess it and when he didn’t, he literally asked me to anyway. i don’t wanna say he begged but… yeah he kinda did. a lot of “please” and pushing after i clearly wasn’t into it- after that i drove him to his house and dropped him off lmao after that i already knew i was gonna break up with him after sadies. so yeah i started getting a little distant because i didn’t want it to come out of nowhere and i didn’t want to pretend i still wanted to be around him when i didn’t. sadies rolls around and this kid spends the entire day trailing behind the group not talking, just looking miserable. (no offense to sad puppies but omg.) i had already told him the night before that i didn’t want any pda, yet he kept asking to hold my hand and i had to keep reminding him that it made me uncomfortable. even though a good bf should respect his gfs boundaries... during lunch it was just me and him and he’s like “are you okay? you’ve been distant, do you not like me anymore?” and i tell him i’ve been thinking a lot and i don’t think i’m ready for a relationship. he suggests going back to friends and “rebuilding” and i didn’t fully shut it down because we were still stuck together all day and i wasn’t about to break up with him in the middle of everything. i’m not evil ? anyways i break up w him scratch won't let me put the detailed part in for some reason it says it's a bad word ig but whatever FAST FORWARD THREE MONTHS and this kid is STILL talking about me. now he’s telling people that i was manipulative??? hello??? name ONE time. actually don’t, because you can’t. if anything, pushing boundaries and then saying “oh it was just a joke” when someone’s uncomfortable is way more manipulative. he’s also telling people that HE broke up with ME which is actually insane considering i was the one uncomfortable, setting boundaries, and trying to end things respectfully. do i need to pull out the screen recordings or..?? anyways i genuinely don’t understand why he’s still lying and dragging this out. if you’re gonna hate on me, at least do it for things i actually did. i have REAL reasons for disliking him—he’s just making crap up. if you read all this i love you btw :333
