Confidence is a tricky thing. What exactly is confidence? I believe that it’s self-worth and self-love without being egotistical. I believe that it’s being assured in yourself, respecting yourself and not letting other people belittle you. Confidence is also.. attractive, magnetic. Not in a weird way, but we’re often drawn to more confident and subtle gestures. Does confidence mean being loud, proud of yourself and standoffish? No, I don’t think so. Staying quiet is a form of strength, and confidence in itself. Being able to stay quiet and calm in stressful or overwhelming moments is seriously a power, and resilience is essential. You could be the loudest person in the room, yet appear insignificant, annoying or too defensive. I think it’s quite silly to assume that quiet automatically equals shy, since that’s often times not the case. Quietness is rich. There’s a sense of depth in the silence that only the people in a conversation can understand. For example, when you have a fight and someone makes the room stop in a quiet voice. Or when you just look at a friend and immediately understand what they’re thinking or feeling, without any words attached. After all I’ve written, I’d just like to clarify that this doesn’t mean that being loud is a weakness, rather knowing when to be loud and when to be silent is key. The world is about balance, and both worlds have their own limits, strengths and weakness. Sincerely, rae.
