Just had a huge argument with someone? Holding a grudge against someone? When do we stop carrying the ache in our hearts, and when do we begin to forgive them? People don’t do anything unacceptable without a reason. Insecurity, anger, self-hatred, etc. I don’t believe that anyone secure with themselves would ever treat someone horribly. Everyone in this world has their own struggles and flaws, maybe they got provoked. Angry in the moment. Gloomy, depressed, had a bad day.. now, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t hold people accountable. You should. They can learn from their mistakes. However, I believe that holding a grudge for too long will only cause more harm than good. Sure, you can forget it, but the hurt still lingers. Forgiving is easier said than done, and we only forget because it's the easiest option. We, as humans, tend to be drawn towards the easy, the efficient and the least.. hurtful. However, it’s still there, isn’t it? The pain. The heartache. The feeling. Holding a grudge against someone for something that happened years ago is silly. Have you seen any improvements in their character? If so, why are you still holding it against them? And if not, why are you still thinking about them? They don’t deserve your time, and forgiving is much stronger than forgetting. It gives you a peace of mind, and a positive attitude. Try to think the best of people, even if it feels like they won’t change. Maybe try to see their good aspects. No one is 100% horrible. So, are you forgiving or are you taking the easy route, just.. forgetting? Don’t be afraid to talk to them, to pour your heart out. It will get a lot off of your chest, and maybe even clarify a few things with them. Take the risk. If it ends well, great. If it doesn’t, that’s it. The world is still spinning, and there are billions of people out there. Don’t let one person ruin your peace. Sincerely, rae.
