Lets talk : Solving problems like good lil spoppers :D

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Hi..... uh... ok so after some stuff in the comm I was rly thinking what can I do to aware people of this so I decided this. _____________________________________________ Lets talk. This isn't going to be heavily opinion based, but sort of. It will be based on factual things though. _____________________________________________ I know it may be a bit difficult since most of us are in fact kids around the age of 9 - 17 and although some of the older ones may know how to speak a bit more maturely, I'm hoping the younger teens and 9-12 yr olds could possibly understand a bit more. ofc this isn't targeted to JUST them I want it to impact everyone. When there is drama in the comm, ppl sometimes get upset with each other and blatantly say "well you do this/ that" or "I don't like this/ that" . STOBBIT. You don't need to get the last word in, what you need to do is come to an agreement with each other. just going back and forth fighting and saying random things wont cut it. Also if your fighting over something silly like a bias, being a fan more than someone else is, or having more of something than another person has, etc, that's low key ridiculous and just stop. If they are looking down on you bc of that, then it technically is harassment and you should say smth but not bluntly. for example someone says they had more photocards from actual albums then you do and they call your fan made ones cheap, worthless, etc. while this can be a lil bit rude (I'm too RUDEEE) ok I'm done now TT. }, its down right silly, it shouldn't matter if they are distributed from an actual album or just an online shop. they are both lamenated pictures of a person on paper, so it doesn't matter. HOWEVER. if this person says they "have more album photocards then you, are you poor lol?" this is harassment, and its quite disrespectful. You need to say something. Start by something like "Hey, that was disrespectful, whether joke or not and you hurt my feelings by it. Pls explain urself/apoligize" if they do apologize GREAT YOU GUYS HAVE TALKED IT OUT ... but if they dont, its prob time to just bring out the mass reporting ;__; _____________________________________________ instead of going back and forth you need to talk it out maturely and not just say "I don't like this" or "I don't like that" in a harmful way. its best to try to be clear and say it in a way that will NOT offend the other person, bc if you keep doing it rudely ur not gonna get no where. we can have freedom of speech, but if it's nothing but just I don't like this, I don't like this, its gonna make a problem. If there is drama lets try to take these steps. 1. What is the drama about? Why are you arguing? Think about why this happened, what is this about, what you could say to stop it. 2. Talk Start out not rude,shallow, blunt, etc. Start by saying smth like "hey the way you said this sounds upsetting. Pls explain why you said that and why you think that." NOW LISTEN UP. WHAT NOT TO SAY/DO DONT say "the way you said this sounds rude" FIRST although it can sound rude, we don't truly know their real intentions, and its best to talk a bit first by coming to the conclusion that they are rude/mean/disrespectful/Etc. 3. If one side is being harmful, Tell an adult/trusted older guardian. You could also ask trusted friends that may also use the same platform help report that person. Because if you're gonna be disrespectful to people on that platform, you don't need to have that platform in the first place. It will in fact be best if you leave the platform if you choose not to stop 4. The double A - apologize/agree If one side did something in need of apology, then they should infact apologize, if they don't think they need to, you cant force them, but that doesn't mean that they were trying to be rude to you. everyone has different customs and beliefs so if this happens don't report them. instead don't ag it on, try to understand their side as well. if they apologize, GREAT! :D BUT...don't say its ok bc its not, instead say something like "Thanks and I accept your apology. pls try not to do it again, I truly believe you're a good person that doesn't need the hate" After that, if you also need to apologize or feel that you need to, then do it. If you and that person have talked it out and agreed about the topic, then that means that it should be over. you both have come to an agreement after talking maturely and there shouldn't need to be any more problems :D _____________________________________________ WHAT NOT TO SAY/do (I know I said one snippet but there is this for context) 1 * don't go into it. don't start the conversation by calling them something, even though they just may be. This can actually cause some more attention, and it can actually be harmful, especially if that wasn't the persons intent. going in for it will make it worse, and can even get the receiving end person in their head. {Continued in notes and credits}