For all who have a crush, this is what I want to tell you. I had a crush on a girl who is one of my best friends. I never told her, but I know she didn't like me, and goodness, do I feel crushed. But now I've realized something. I admired her so much before I knew her. She seemed so put together, she was pretty, popular, and really, really nice. And then she opened up to me one day after we had the same class together. Her boyfriend of many months had broken up with her that day. She felt horrible, anxious, and felt like she liked someone else, a boy in the grade below her. By the end of the day, her boyfriend was begging to get back together with her. She said no, thankfully, and ended up getting together with the other boy. I realized throughout this that I really, really liked her. Not just as a friend, but as more. She trusted me enough to open up to me. Not many are like that. And she let herself feel vulnerable to me, she didn't hide her feelings away from everyone. Eventually she ended up getting together with the first boy again, even though he was emotionally abus!ve and had cheated on her with 2 girls. Even the same week he got together with her-- the same day even-- he was with another girl. I knew she didn't like me, but it was hard. I cried. a lot. But eventually I realized that I still loved her. Not as a crush, but as a friend. And though I mourned the future I had imagined for us, I welcomed the future to come. Friends. Best friends. Forever.
Tell your crushes you like them. They may feel the same, they may not. Or it might just be a reminder to those broken that they are still lovable. "There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." - Leonard Cohen
