(Update: I'm choosing to use demigirl, neutrois, trans, fingender and quoigender for now. it might change.) Haaaah.............LABELS. Labels, labels, labels. I love and hate them so much. Ok, so, if you know about me a bit, you'd know that I've gone through MANY changes with myself, gender especially. I just can't seem to figure out what I like best. Or what FITS best. And so I go around in circles looking for the right thing. Personally, the six labels I put here are what I'm most considering, but there are others. Ig since I mentioned consideration I'll put negative and positive on each? Genderfluid The good: accurately describes how my gender has acted over the years. The bad: I don't think this is the full story. Neutrois The good: nice name, also has a lot of ties to how my gender feels sometimes. The bad: What even qualifies as neutrois atp? Agender The Good: Agender = cool. Also sometimes I lose my concept of gender in general The Bad: Other times I feel strongly gendered. Plus, there isn't really words like "boy" "girl" "enby" etc that are easy to put into things. Nonbinary The Good: I can see this having a lot of ties to my gender, plus it's broad enough that I can use it in tandem with other labels extremely easily The Bad: I give up this one so fast........it doesnt feel wrong but there's some part of me that wants something definite. Demigirl (Transgender) The Good: There is no way this isn't at least part of the story atp. I definitely feel female/feminine, but not fully and sometimes not even a lot. ooughhhhhh and i also like the flag The Bad: but what if my mind immediately rejects the label Cisgender The Good: Easy! The Bad: N O . It's kind of hard to visualize or understand what this (or anything else) MEANS. Does feeling like I have a gender but it's unclear or not that big a deal in my life apagender, quoigender, abrogender, gendervoid, or all of those? Of course, it boils down to preference for the most part, but then what if it changes over and over? What if people get tired of hearing me have new pronouns all the time? What if someone misgenders me and now I don't want to tell them I changed so I just go along with it? And then people are gonna expect me to CONFORM to those labels like wth. With that said, AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Ok, so here I'll talk about orientation. I feel like my orientation is easier to pin down. I currently (as of 11 Oct 2026) use the demiromantic, omniromantic and asexual labels. They're pretty accurate, but I still wonder. I've never had a romantic relationship, but I want one, so does that make me open to romance (alloromantic), cupioromantic or aromantic? Ik i'm asexual but what KIND of asexual???? atp idk it's fine i'll finish my thought later
